1. Be hard on yourself.
If you’ve arrived at a place where you know
you need to radically improve yourself because you’ve caused others pain—and
are in pain yourself as a result—then you have a great opportunity to get
leverage on yourself. This means using the mind’s
unconscious but powerful system of motivation that causes us to move away from anything that causes us1
emotional or physical pain.
By not dodging the pain of your failure but instead
allowing yourself to feel it fully and associate it with the behaviors you wish
to change, you are programming your subconscious to find a better way, to avoid making the
same mistakes. And with enough programming, it will find a way. Take
some time to reflect on where you have let yourself or others down without the
excuse-making you used to rely on to avoid this pain, and then resolve to
improve.
2. Apologize the right way.
Just as you must stop yourself from using the past
pattern of excuse-making when trying to create leverage against yourself, this
is even more important if you have someone to apologize to.
An “I’m sorry, but…” is not a true apology.
A real apology is simply and honestly, “I’m sorry.”1
Another important part of an apology is to avoid
promising the other person that you’ll give them the world to make up for the
mistake. If you resolve to show them more respect by being true to
your word, then avoid using too many words.
If you lack integrity, one of your defining
characteristics is overpromising and under-delivering. And you simply have to
stop doing it.
Take note of every time you make promises that are hard
to keep and analyze why you need to please people all the time. Practice saying no
to things you know you will have difficulty completing. This isn’t about
setting boundaries with other people so much as setting boundaries with
yourself.
4. Strengthen your decision-making power.
Your personal integrity is defined by the power of your
decisions. By power, I mean the capacity to keep the decision you’ve made in
the forefront of your mind and keep it a priority. Practice making
decisions with the end in mind. Start small.
When you remember that recycling needs to be delivered
today, resolve to do that as soon as you get through the door. Then stick to
it. Check your emails at a predetermined time and then close your laptop. Set
reminders for things. The important part of this isn’t setting the reminder but
resolving that when that alarm goes off, you will drop whatever you are doing
and do it right then.
5. Develop a routine.
If you struggle
to be on time and often find yourself scrambling to finish projects
by deadline, you’re weakening your integrity. Time mismanagement causes a
vicious cycle of letting people down and failing to stay true to your word.
Your ability to maintain a routine tells people you can be trusted.
The best place to start is at the beginning of your day.
If you can start your day the same way, then you begin to develop positive
habits that will spill over into the rest of your life.
Here are some tips for using your morning to strengthen
your integrity:
- · Blast yourself with cold water at the end of your shower. It jolts your mind and nerves awake and gets you ready for the day.
- · Consume at least one large glass of water and eat a healthy breakfast. You’ll need fuel to keep up your energy and productivity throughout the day.
- · Practice gratitude. Take just five minutes to meditate on or list things you are grateful for. It’s an incredibly powerful way to align you with what’s important to you. These thoughts are then reflected in your actions.
So if you want to step up and become a person who people
can rely on and you want to stop letting others down, then well done. Just that
intent alone is admirable.
Now follow these steps and start living in a way that you
can be proud of and positively affects the lives of those you love.
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